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A Funny Relationship is a Healthy Relationship

What does the title mean?

Let me tell you right off the bat so that you can move on from this article. In this day of lightning-speed browsing, I’ve already lost you, perhaps 😊

A healthy relationship is the ability to laugh at oneself and each other. Laugh with, not at.

That’s it.

If you have this, it’s all one needs. Of course, there are some other healthy relationship tips too that we could all make use of. After all, human beings are complex. However, if you take it easy, that’s half the job done.

The sense of ease and joy that comes from being with a person who’s easygoing and light-hearted cannot be understated. Do you know the freedom of not walking on eggshells around a partner? It’s wonderful! Mostly because you can be you without worrying about how the other person may perceive your words.

The other side of it, having a partner who’s sensitive and easily offended, also has its advantages. It may be surprising to hear but the fact is, having such a partner ensures that you are always mindful of what you say. Mindfulness of speech is one of the biggest factors in evolving as a human being.

When you begin to be aware of every word you speak, you naturally start becoming kinder and more compassionate in your language and thought. Isn’t that beautiful?

Any so-called irritant in your partner can be reframed and looked at differently. Do you want to look at the rose or its thorn? The choice is yours.

In fact, this is why marriages fail. People are more focused on everything their partner is doing wrong. There may be a dozen redeeming qualities they have but it’s too late. All that’s evident now are the irritating factors.

The sad thing is, such marriages or relationships can still be worked out if the two partners are aware of what’s going wrong. The signs of a failing marriage always make themselves seen long before the tipping point. It’s just that oftentimes, we notice only the symptoms and not the root cause.

It’s not that your wife wants to be a nag. The nagging is but a symptom of a deeper desire – to spend time with you, to experience togetherness with you. And it’s not that your husband doesn’t listen – his love language is different. Perhaps he prefers gestures of love to communication.

Take the time to understand your partner, be patient, give it time. Miracles can unfold when we give something time.

And most importantly, laugh. Laugh at yourself, laugh with your partner, laugh at life together. You’ll be amazed at how your relationship takes a 180 degree turn when you learn to laugh and let things go.

It’s my secret to a happy, healthy relationship – laughter.

Perhaps make it yours too? 😊
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